02 Sep Local and national resources of help and support for adults and children
Separation and divorce is difficult for adults and children.
We firmly believe that accessing the right support from the right service/person is key to helping you/your children through this transitional period.
We also believe that educating yourself/your child can really help to answer inevitable worries such as what happens next, what your future will look like and much more.
It can be a minefield trying to find the right help and resources.
This guide is designed to signpost you in the right direction.
- Relate Jersey
- Joint, individual or family therapy
- The Jersey Centre for Separated Families
- Children and Families Hub
- Brighter Futures
- Listening Lounge | L.I.N.C. (linc.je)
- Separation and divorce (gov.je)
- Family court: how children’s interests are represented (gov.je)
National support for adults / parents (although references to the law, legal processes and legal concepts do not apply in Jersey)
- Voices in The Middle – For Young People When Parents Split Up
- Helping Your Child Cope with Your Divorce or Separation | NSPCC
- Anna Freud National Centre for Children and Families
- Divorce advice | Family Lives
- Parenting through separation | Resolution
- Supporting your children through divorce and separation – Cafcass – Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service
- Co parenting apps
- Other services
- YES – Advice & Support for Young People in Jersey Channel Islands
- NSPCC Jersey
- Other local support for children
For adults / parents locally
- Counsellors provide a confidential, supportive and non-judgemental environment to help navigate relationship difficulties.
- It’s the counsellor’s role to help people work out their feelings in relation to divorce or separation allowing reflection on what is happening to them and to consider alternative ways of doing things.
- If the couple decide that the relationship has ended, counselling is available to help couples separate amicably.
Joint, individual or family therapy
- Other local therapists offer joint, individual or family therapy.
- Get in contact to find out more if you think you could benefit from any of these services.
- Services are available to parents who are caring for their children alone, those who are sharing care and those who are not able to spend time with their children.
- Parents, carers, grandparents or anyone else with concerns about family separation are welcome.
- Support Group Meetings are available to parents and they are welcome to bring a friend for support.
- The service offers support on;
- Parenting apart – parenting plans, helping children live in two homes; and
- Children – telling them, what they can expect, how they might adjust.
- Provides information, advice and support for families and young people.
- Their aim is make sure children and families get the right help, at the right time.
- The hub offers courses to help parents navigate parenting and how to keep children in mind when separating.
- Support can be accessed from Brighter Futures by contacting them directly or any professional who knows you can make a referral.
- Every client at Brighter Futures is allocated a key worker who will work to identify the right support and help to achieve set goals.
- Brighter Futures offers a number of groups and programmes that deal with a range of topics such as wellbeing, parent and child relationships and personal development.
- If you are struggling with your mental health and need someone to talk to, the Listening Lounge aims to support islanders with their mental health and wellbeing.
- The team of counsellors and peer workers provide a range of different support options which can all be accessed free of charge and without the need for a referral.
- The Listening Lounge is open from 10 a.m. until 10 p.m., 7 days a week.
- The Government website includes lots of information on the court process including – legal guidance, the requisite forms, the court processing fees and information on tax and social security on divorce.
- The Jersey Family Court Advisory Service (JFCAS) looks after the interests of children involved in family court proceedings.
- Click on the website above to find out general information or here Jersey Family Court Advisory Service Operating Framework (gov.je) if you want to find out more about their operating framework.
National support for adults / parents
(although references to the law, legal processes and legal concepts do not apply in Jersey)
- Excellent Conversation Guide for parents of teenagers created by Voices in the Middle young people.
- Useful questions to ask, tips on how to plan the conversation and advice from young people who have been through their parent’s separation.
- Lots of other support, help and guides to help parents of teenagers including teenager’s rights and information on the importance of other family relationships.
- Includes useful content around separation / divorce and children.
- World leading mental health charity for children and families and has developed and delivered pioneering mental health care for over 70 years.
- If you are thinking about separating or divorcing your partner, or you are already doing so, this website has lots of advice on things which might be worrying you.
- Read about where to find support, how divorce affects your children and ways you can help them through the process as well of lots of other topics such as new partner, shared parenting and coping with holidays.
- Excellent and detailed guide to help parents navigating separation.
- Covers topics such as communication, how to tell children, the impact divorce/separation has on children at different stages of their lives and what to look out for, parenting plans and much more.
Supporting your children through divorce and separation – Cafcass – Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service
- CAFCASS – advice around support you can offer your child(ren).
- Only mums and only dads has lots of articles written by professionals who answer many of the frequently asked questions they receive in their inbox.
- It also contains useful links to organisations offering support and advice to parents and children.
- If you are a victim of domestic abuse and need some legal advice to clarify what your options are, you can contact one of the professionals on their Green Phone.
- They have a publication called ‘101 Questions Answered About Separating With Children’ which is a very good starting point for any parent; full of advice, tips; answers to many FAQs and a comprehensive listing to a wide range of additional support organisations.
Co parenting apps
Most of the co-parenting apps offer four basic features:
- a shareable calendar and scheduling tools;
- a messaging function that keeps a record of all your messages and replies;
- an expenses record so that you can collate and share expenses;
- a storage function for key documents for example medical records and also for sharing photos and memories.
- Probably the market leader in the UK and has had plenty of publicity. It covers all of the features listed above.
- WeParent helps you manage events and appointments, documents, expenses, schedules, and messaging and is another popular option.
- It has features that cover the basic elements above.
- It is the simplest of its kind and features a calendar that you can sync with your co-parent so you are both kept up to date.
- Covers all of the features listed above.
- Talking Parents describes itself as a co-parenting communication service. Many of their premium level functions are not accessible in the UK, but they cover all of the basic functions above in a free basic level service.
- It covers all the basic elements.
- Parenting Coach to help parents parent together after separation or divorce.
- Parenting Co-Ordination to help parents interpret parenting plans, amend them as children’s needs change and find ways to resolve ongoing issues.
For children locally
- The YES project provides young people with free confidential, information, advice and counselling.
- Sometimes children find it hard to talk to someone in the family about their parents separating. They can always contact child line on 0800 111
Other local support for children
- Counselling at school
- Support lines
- Literature / documentaries
National support for children
- A place where children can read helpful articles about when their parent’s split up, have a voice and connect with and help others.
- For children and young people whose parents have split up or are splitting up.
- The website includes information about divorce and separation, what happens to children, children’s feelings and much more.
- Helps anyone under 19 with any issue they’re going through.
- Their trained counsellors are there to support children and young people.